Courtesy, graciousness, good manners - call it what you want, the supply never seems to equal the demand. From beginning of time, many countries’ presidents politely communicated with other countries’ presidents to build a friendship with each other. In case after case the conflicts could have been overcome or might have arisen, if people involved had just treated one another with common courtesy and willingness to compromise. Do you usually treat others with courtesy or good manners? How do you communicate with others? I believe using courtesy and good manners will communicate with everybody more easily and will have more opportunity for better relationships.
George Washington once said “Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence”. I agree with his words. In my personal experience, my uncle who is in America picked me up in JFK airport in which it was the first time I ever met him. So I was worried about how I could communicate with him during my flight. To my surprise, when I met uncle, he was very kind and friendly and gave me a hug. He’s always smiling trying to communicate with me. I got his warm welcome, and became confidence to speak English with him. Now I am very comfortable to live with his family. However, if my uncle would have picked me up without courtesy, I would have had a lot of trouble on communicating with him and been uncomfortable with his family. So courtesy is the most important in communicate with another.
Confucius once said “When music and courtesy are better understood and appreciated, there will be no war”. Courtesy is very useful to communicate with another. Here is an example about a waiter and a customer in a restaurant. The customer came in to the restaurant and sat in a corner, and then waiter got the order from her. After 5 minutes, the waiter served her food and drink to her. After the waiter put dishes on the table, the customer was getting up to the restroom while he was putting a cup of coffee on the table. Accidentally the customer knocked off the coffee, and the coffee spilled over her expensive dress. The waiter quickly gave his apologies to the woman. But the woman was very kind and said with smile, “It’s ok. It’s ok……”. Good manners are no exception. We believe there would be an argument if the customer was not courtesy. I am sure that courtesy and good manners will solve many problems.
Finally, if you were a considerate person and accepted courtesy, you will be happy. “You reap what you plant”. To treat people with polite manners and courtesy, you will get their gracious treatment.
Monday, February 26, 2007
Monday, February 19, 2007
friendship
What do you expect in a true friend?
It is an easy question on what a true friend is, but it is very difficult to answer. True friendship is one of those things in life that at times we take for granted. Terms such as “friendship is forever” or “friends always” are a common thread that runs through our lives. But in truth how many genuine friendships do we have? Think for a moment and list those who we feel that are true friends and those who we have a close relationship. Are they true friends? Is their friendship from the heart? How many people do you truly see as friends? What do we expect in a true friend?
True friendship is seen through the heart not through the eyes. An example about two friends is Lily and Angela. Two years ago, they were very good friends and had a worthy friendship. They used to do business together and earned a lot of money. They were very rich. They shopped in fancy stores, and ate at expensive restaurants as well as attending many parties together. They agreed that “friendship is forever” and “friends always”. Then Angela started to lose money due to bad business decisions. Angela had no assets except for her house. Lily knew about Angela’s situation, and then she gave her a hand by giving a loan and encouraged Angela to make better decisions in business. Following Lily’s suggestions, Angela made better business decisions and taking calculated risks. Angela was again making money. She appreciated Lily, and felt that a friend in need, is a friend is indeed.
From the above example, we know real friendship is genuine from one heart to another. I am sure a lot of people would expect to make a true friend like Lily through the heart.
True friends form a special connection that will weather any storm. True friends understand being human and give the other room to grow. True friends are there even when they are not expected to be present. True friends know and cherish each other’s gifts. We expect a true friend who is honest, encouraging, knowing and gentle.
It is an easy question on what a true friend is, but it is very difficult to answer. True friendship is one of those things in life that at times we take for granted. Terms such as “friendship is forever” or “friends always” are a common thread that runs through our lives. But in truth how many genuine friendships do we have? Think for a moment and list those who we feel that are true friends and those who we have a close relationship. Are they true friends? Is their friendship from the heart? How many people do you truly see as friends? What do we expect in a true friend?
True friendship is seen through the heart not through the eyes. An example about two friends is Lily and Angela. Two years ago, they were very good friends and had a worthy friendship. They used to do business together and earned a lot of money. They were very rich. They shopped in fancy stores, and ate at expensive restaurants as well as attending many parties together. They agreed that “friendship is forever” and “friends always”. Then Angela started to lose money due to bad business decisions. Angela had no assets except for her house. Lily knew about Angela’s situation, and then she gave her a hand by giving a loan and encouraged Angela to make better decisions in business. Following Lily’s suggestions, Angela made better business decisions and taking calculated risks. Angela was again making money. She appreciated Lily, and felt that a friend in need, is a friend is indeed.
From the above example, we know real friendship is genuine from one heart to another. I am sure a lot of people would expect to make a true friend like Lily through the heart.
True friends form a special connection that will weather any storm. True friends understand being human and give the other room to grow. True friends are there even when they are not expected to be present. True friends know and cherish each other’s gifts. We expect a true friend who is honest, encouraging, knowing and gentle.
Saturday, February 17, 2007
the chinese new year
Today is the Chinese New Year. I will talk about the Chinese new year. The Chinese New Year is the most important holiday for Chinese people. Like Thanksgiving celebrated in the United States, the Chinese New Year is a time for family gathering. Regardless how far away they live from their parents, Chinese people will do their best to go back home and have a big feast with their families on the eve of the Chinese New Year.
Each year the Chinese New Year falls sometime in January or February. The reason that the Chinese New Year is never celebrated on the same day every year is because of the calendar that Chinese people use to count days. The Gregorian calendar we commonly use today tracks the movement of the sun. This calendar is different from the Chinese calendar. The Chinese calendar, also known as the lunar calendar, tracks the movement of the moon. The Chinese New Year starts with the new moon on the first day of a new year and ends on the full moon fifteen days later.
As the clock strikes midnight on the eve of the Chinese New Year, firecracker sounds pound heavily against our eardrums, and fireworks paint the night sky in red, yellow, orange, blue, and green. People crowd the streets and exchange greetings with one another. For the next fifteen days, Chinese people all over the world reunite with their families, carry out rituals to show respect for their ancestors and mythical gods, or simply have a good time! Here is a checklist of DOs during the Chinese New Year:Do wear red clothes. Red symbolizes fortune and luck.
Do set aside grudges against enemies and call off unpaid debt. Let bygones be bygones - if personal differences or financial obligations cannot be settled before the Chinese New Year, they shall be forgotten.
Do clean your house thoroughly before the Chinese New Year, so misfortune will be cleaned away to make room for good fortune.
Do have a dish of a whole fish for the feast on the Chinese New Year's eve. Make sure that you leave some to be devoured on the following day. As "fish" and "extra" have the same pronunciation in Chinese, having a fish left over from a previous year corresponds to a popular Chinese proverb meaning "having extra every year."
Do give red envelopes (stuffed with money) to your parents, your children, or the children of your friends and relatives. You will only need to do so if you are married. When giving out red envelopes, you are wishing that the recipient would not grow old.
Each year the Chinese New Year falls sometime in January or February. The reason that the Chinese New Year is never celebrated on the same day every year is because of the calendar that Chinese people use to count days. The Gregorian calendar we commonly use today tracks the movement of the sun. This calendar is different from the Chinese calendar. The Chinese calendar, also known as the lunar calendar, tracks the movement of the moon. The Chinese New Year starts with the new moon on the first day of a new year and ends on the full moon fifteen days later.
As the clock strikes midnight on the eve of the Chinese New Year, firecracker sounds pound heavily against our eardrums, and fireworks paint the night sky in red, yellow, orange, blue, and green. People crowd the streets and exchange greetings with one another. For the next fifteen days, Chinese people all over the world reunite with their families, carry out rituals to show respect for their ancestors and mythical gods, or simply have a good time! Here is a checklist of DOs during the Chinese New Year:Do wear red clothes. Red symbolizes fortune and luck.
Do set aside grudges against enemies and call off unpaid debt. Let bygones be bygones - if personal differences or financial obligations cannot be settled before the Chinese New Year, they shall be forgotten.
Do clean your house thoroughly before the Chinese New Year, so misfortune will be cleaned away to make room for good fortune.
Do have a dish of a whole fish for the feast on the Chinese New Year's eve. Make sure that you leave some to be devoured on the following day. As "fish" and "extra" have the same pronunciation in Chinese, having a fish left over from a previous year corresponds to a popular Chinese proverb meaning "having extra every year."
Do give red envelopes (stuffed with money) to your parents, your children, or the children of your friends and relatives. You will only need to do so if you are married. When giving out red envelopes, you are wishing that the recipient would not grow old.
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
The hottest love has the coldest end
People love things and reach them to get their aim, and they pay a lot of time, passion, patience and so on. Unfortunately, they fail to get destination with heart their getting hurt. Another word is that the hottest love has the coldest end.
There is a famous baseball team called Boston Red Sox. The city of Boston loves their baseball team very much. The owners have spent millions of dollars to bring a championship to Boston. They won 4 championships before 1918. After that, they did not win title until 2004. They are also popular around country due to their heart breaking losses. Fans have fallen in love with the team. Unfortunately, the strange ways of losing for this team has caused many broken hearts and pain for Sox fans. In another words, we can say that the hottest love has the coldest end up until 2004.
The other thing, I have a girlfriend who was loved very much by this guy. He always showed her how much he loved her. For example, every day he picked up her at home, every lunch, he prepared it to her and he was willing to do what she wants. Although my girlfriend did not love him first, he did not give up and kept doing the same thing everyday. Day after day, she fell in love with him. Their love was so strong, and they planned their marriage after their graduation, and intended to have babies in the future. Everyday they met, then have lunch together and call each other at night. They felt the time spent together was not enough. Unfortunately, the boy stopped calling her and picking up her after 3 months. The girl looked for him, but lost contact. Finally she found him and asked him why, and he only told her that he did not love her without any reasons. That girl was crying with a broken heart. The love has stopped. The hottest love began beautifully, but ended the coldest.
Love begins with smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. In conclusion, people love some things deeply, and it became true what they expected. So they love them with a lot of heart. Sadly, the love would not become true, and they lost with heart getting hurt.
There is a famous baseball team called Boston Red Sox. The city of Boston loves their baseball team very much. The owners have spent millions of dollars to bring a championship to Boston. They won 4 championships before 1918. After that, they did not win title until 2004. They are also popular around country due to their heart breaking losses. Fans have fallen in love with the team. Unfortunately, the strange ways of losing for this team has caused many broken hearts and pain for Sox fans. In another words, we can say that the hottest love has the coldest end up until 2004.
The other thing, I have a girlfriend who was loved very much by this guy. He always showed her how much he loved her. For example, every day he picked up her at home, every lunch, he prepared it to her and he was willing to do what she wants. Although my girlfriend did not love him first, he did not give up and kept doing the same thing everyday. Day after day, she fell in love with him. Their love was so strong, and they planned their marriage after their graduation, and intended to have babies in the future. Everyday they met, then have lunch together and call each other at night. They felt the time spent together was not enough. Unfortunately, the boy stopped calling her and picking up her after 3 months. The girl looked for him, but lost contact. Finally she found him and asked him why, and he only told her that he did not love her without any reasons. That girl was crying with a broken heart. The love has stopped. The hottest love began beautifully, but ended the coldest.
Love begins with smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. In conclusion, people love some things deeply, and it became true what they expected. So they love them with a lot of heart. Sadly, the love would not become true, and they lost with heart getting hurt.
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